Safety and security means many things at different times. The people we let in to our lives are all players with their own unique part creating a circle of security or toxicity. Who is in your personal bubble and what are they bringing to your sense of value and worth. Hopefully a lot. If not then they simply belong on the outside looking in instead of the other way around.
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Sometimes we have to take 100 steps back to see where our bubble boundaries are when we lose sight so we can tighten them up leaving some on the other side. Working toward a secure space means thinking, rethinking and reevaluating with honesty and authenticity. Allowing those in to our safe space should be the trusted , tried and true.
That doesn’t mean as we meet new people they don’t have a place but what it does mean is that they must earn a spot in the sanctuary of our bubble which is the essence of who we are that includes your self esteem, core values, beliefs and worth. By the same token some people will need to leave for a while to work on themselves before we can let them back in but there are no guarantees. Sometimes as they work on themselves we ourselves evolve and change and there just isn’t any space for them to come back in after making those changes, turns and experiencing certain epiphanies. This is the order of things and how we grow and evolve. Our bubble can be a place of experimentation and at times may include a misguided invitation to join. This is called the evolution of who we are traveling down the road of life.
Embrace those misguided invitations you offered as an opportunity to grow and change. What are these new players bringing and do they support what we are trying to become, nurture and create in our lives. Are each of your individual truths evolving in the same direction or is there time needed to hone and perfect what exactly those truths look like. In addition, are they even capable of continuing to move along the road in the bubble with you or must they step aside to be cast out not in a malicious manner but to preserve your dignity, self worth and the beauty of your individuality.
Time always reveals what we may not initially be able to see. Our bubble will expand and contract as people come in and out of our lives but only those that are worthy of being included should be allowed to stay and go on the journey with you. If they are afraid or confused or incapable they are not at your level of authenticity or self-awareness. Take this as a signal that it is time to contract your safety bubble but be still and have faith rather than fear to be able to release them.
They may find their way back but keep moving forward. They will only be able to find a place later if they are in sync with where you are at the time you both find your way back to each other if that is what the universe is intending to happen. In other words, only time will tell........
XO & #StayCurious
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